The alphabet, as in the letter names, is not, in my opinion, the most helpful thing to learn pre-reading skills. We speak and read in sounds not letter names.
The letter names we need to learn, the sounds they already have.
So for that reason, besides also that she's only 31/2 and has no need to learn anything remotely academic, I have kept away from the alphabet. She had a short burst of sounding out first letter sounds some time ago, where she enjoyed saying, muh for mama, luh for light, and so forth. Off her own volition.
But a child that watches Sesame Street, Dora, Maisy and reads related books, can't be kept from the alphabet. And about 2 months ago she suddenly fell in love with letters. And when I wasn't looking, she learnt the ABC song. And, amusingly, says the American Zee as well as the British Zed in turns. She loves to sing it.
Since this new love affair I have supported her cues to learning and we say letters once in a while. I've bought her a couple of ABC books. I'm trying to steer back to letter sounds.
She calls me to help her with putting the letters in order, although she gets tired/bored by the last 6 or so. I 'help', by prompting, 'which is next?', or indicating when she skipped one.
Today I gave her a new set of animal magnets we bought her and thought to test which letters she knew for certain. Just out of curiosity.
So she picked an animal out of a bag, and I asked her what it was and then what letter did it begin with, and then asked her to find that letter.
a, b, c, d, e, f, g, h, i, k, l, m, o, p, r, s, t, w, x, y, z
Hesitant on j, n, q, u, v
Although I swear she knows n.
I just love watching a child learn and teach themselves, and out of pure self-motivation. I love watching in action the proof that children don't need teachers.