“A (wo)man is not old until regrets take the place of her dreams.”
so i'm 40 today.
it's an essence of course, as 40 isn't really drastically different to 39 or 41. but that essence has magic to it.
at 30 i entered into what i felt was the full essence of womanhood. youth was behind me and now maturity and depth were ahead.
40 has a different magic, it is more powerful, stronger, surer, yet more peaceful.
40 doesn't have the serenity of 50, but it has a calm born from a confidence in being uniquely oneself.
40 has an arsenal of experience, a goldmine of wisdom, and oceans of clarity.
40 is taken seriously.
40 doesn't compete, fight the unfightable, linger over grudges, or over-analyse hurts.
40 has survived a broken heart, betrayal, and many losses. and is stronger for them.
40 doesn't blame others for her pains. she takes responsibility for her emotions and choices.
40 makes herself a priority.
40 is at ease in her own skin, is proud of her laugh lines, makes the best of what she's got, and revels in imperfections.
40 chooses quality over quantity.
40 doesn't ask others to change. she accepts, or moves on.
40 has no time for regrets, diets, gossip, celebrity news, being a victim, gaining approval, trying to get drunk, fashion anxiety, softening her voice, ignoring her dreams, selfish men, petty women, or trying to please.
40 says no with gusto.
40 usually knows where she wants to go, she definitely knows where she no longer wants to be.
40 encourages community but no longer needs to be part of the 'it' crowd.
40 knows the secret of a simple soap and a good moisturiser.
40 embraces the strength and beauty of other women, supports their choices, and is unthreatened by differences.
40 says goodbye to the hurt little girl.
40 can spot joy from 10 feet and knows to snag it in seconds.
40 has a laugh that is free from self-consciousness and quietly infects those around her.
40 knows there is so much more to learn and experience, but that the basics are in place.
40 has backbone.
40 has arrived.
it takes work to get to, and continue at, this 40. mindful and conscious living. if 40 is still in the distance for you, i wish for you the tenacity to do the work. it's worth it.
it's what makes 40 faaaaaabulous darlink!