(as serious or light-hearted as you like) read more here
While in England, and with family, the Wildflower was given new, ahem, suggestions.... from family. Suggestions I would not make and that irked me.
- jump on the sofa!
- go on, throw it (of various items)
- burp louder
- say, smelly uncle
Encouragement to throw things across a room, or to say 'mean' words to others. I just don't understand their thinking. These suggestions, and others similar, were made even after hints from me, or downright direct requests. So it was mostly being ignored that was really tough. Everyone felt they knew better. Or simply enjoyed being defiant. It's a very difficult situation to be in - to have people purposefully not respect your wishes.
And of course this was all going on during a very trying time as it was. My patience was tested.
I don't want to raise my girl in a bubble, and I want a strong bond for her with an extended family. But at under 2 years of age, I want to include as much of the 'good' influences and as little of the not so good. At some point, relatively soon, she'll be picking up all sorts of less than enchanting behaviours and phrases.... but is it too much to ask for my parental wishes to come first, for now? I value respect, kindness, compassion, consideration. I felt like I was amongst everything but that. All I ask is that I'm heard, and that I'm supported by those closest to me.
Kathy Pitras, Warrior Mother
...how to be thankful for this...
I am thankful for the input she received, that I disliked, anyway because...
... it gave me practice on accepting that I cannot control her world, and that I shouldn't.
... it gave her the right to take what suggestions she enjoys or finds interesting
... it gave me the opportunity to test out how we'll handle undersirable (to us) behaviours
... it showed me just how much I can keep my mouth shut.
... it gave me the chance to remember that my influence is a tiny part of this journey, and that who she is and is meant to be, is about something deeper, more soulful, grander, and more amazing, than specific things I wish and don't wish her to do.
Okay, I got it. That last one rocked me. There I had been thinking I was allowing her to blossom into the person I already believed she is.... so why get hung up on such small details? I don't love her for the details. My job, ultimately, isn't about the details. It's about Love.
If you've done your own Thankful Anyway, go ahead and add your link - directly to the post - to the linky below (not visible in feed reader). Grab the button up the top (right click & Save As) and a link back is always nice.