Blogsurfing was decluttered by firstly unFollowing all the blogs I didn't connect with, had initially supported as a small blog, no longer resonated with, etc, etc. And secondly by merging blogsurfing with blog commenting. That is, I read mostly the blogs I'll likely comment on. I want to connect with people first, information second.
Parenting blogs (not personal mama ones) I eliminated. Weird huh? See, I read several blogs/sites concerning parenting issues and my mind was holding onto the desire to blog about tons of various parenting issues. When I created Holistic Mama, it was on a paid domain and it was a website rather than a blog. Finally I wanted something more intimate and more journal-like, so I came to Blogger.
But somewhere in my mind I was still holding onto the ideal of writing about all the top parenting issues. It's just too much. Fortunately, I had already let go the ideal of blogging about eco issues and organic this and that, and, and.....
And you know what? It's no longer who I am. Others do an amazing job of covering the big issues. Fact is, I gain the most pleasure from blogging about what is on the forefront of my mind at the time. And almost always, this means issues that are relevant to me right now. I've discovered that this authenticity connects me most with other mothers. Readers resonate with that. If one day I want to blog about vaccinations, great, if another day I want to blog about a cake recipe, great too. If I want to include tons of information, great. If I just want to share a snippet or thought, great too.
It's okay, I tell myself, I don't have to write about every issue.
More similar mind clutter....... I counted 87 posts in draft form. Yikes. 115 feed reader subscriptions. Several months back I had over 250 subs.
and now..... down to 77 subs, and.... still sifting those drafts.
It's liberating to allow yourself to not have to follow every bit of information...... ;)
This is a small portion of my bookcase, and my Pile Nearby...
Now you might think, well, that's where you put books, in bookcases. Thing is, as we're living in an apartment while we wait to build our new house, a lot of our stuff is still boxed up, including most of my books. What these books, the ones on the shelves, represent, is subjects I want to read in the near future.
These want-to-read-soon subjects include - philosophy, numerology, several parenting topics, psyche, astrology, children and nature, literacy, Taosim, as well as some fiction titles I Want to Get To.
Until last week, I hadn't realised what a mental burden they were, sitting there, in my face as it were.
I've removed the books I'll likely not read, especially non-fiction. And my pile nearby, contains just two books. What a glorious declutter that was for me.
I went outside, soaked in some sun and said to myself - you don't have to read everything Mon, you don't have to know everything. I shed a couple of tears for myself - what a relief.
I know those who don't have a FOMO ('fraid of missing out) complex or aren't Profoundly Interested, won't 'get' this. But for people like me, it's a difficult road to navigate. You crave knowledge, you revel in 'new info', you adore Life..... but it's only one lifetime as this Me. Fact.
Saturn in my creative House has been saying to me - you want/need to be creative... make the difficult choices that will allow that creativity to blossom, to shine, to breathe. Yes, there are limitations (pesonal time/space) but adding more interests ain't gonna make it easier woman!
And it's a daily vigilance too. A friend mentioned 9-star ki and an hour and several websites later.... argh... let it go! Interesting but not a soul need. I can chat about many things, I don't need to research everything for the sake of Peter.
And would you know it, less than a week later.... I came up with a real, solid, exciting, book idea.
I'm learning - decluttering and letting go of interests, is not a punishment, it's a gift. It's not a restriction! It's space.
Every time I thought, heck, wailed, - I have no time, no space... I was lying to myself.