Thursday, April 2

Thankful Anyway Thursday

It's easy to be thankful for the good stuff, can you be thankful for the not so good?

Our usual sleep routine (governed by the Wildlfower) is 11:30 - 8am. With waking up 4-5 times throughout. The last few nights have been 12-8am with 8+ wakings. I think she's teething. Yesterday she spent most of the day irritable. Yesterday evening, I was exhausted. I asked DIY Dad to take her for 30mins while I went for some silence. I could hear her irritability through the walls for 15min and then her sounds became persistent so I went and took her milk. Yep, a great period of respite for me.

Then, after these particularly bad nights and bad days, she falls asleep at 12:15, wakes at 2:45am and is wide awake and fretful until 6:30am. Then she wakes to greet the day at 8:30.

I'm thankful anyway, because as I lay there holding her in my arms, I thought about how in the distant future there will likely be nights where I will be up because of her. But instead of in my arms, she will be out and about. I will sit wondering if she was okay, if she was safe, if she had a ride home. I was tired and awake, but was thankful anyway, to know she wasn't ill, and to have her safe in my arms.

Play along if you like.

Now if you will excuse me, I have a day to zombie through...


  1. Yep, you will blink and she'll be 12, like my daughter.
    It seems like yesterday I was doing the zombie walk myself - hatchling didn't sleep through the night until she was 3!!!
    It's so true what you say about her growing up...cherish these times that you can hold her and rock her and know that she's safe in your arms.
    I am dreading the teen years...many zombie days ahead, I'm sure.

  2. This is a good one Mon. These little ones seem to grow so fast. Mine hardly fits in my arms anymore. Embrace this time.

  3. I love your Thankful Anyway posts Mon - it's a wonderful ability to be able to see the positive side of things. I remember many sleepless nights when my daughter was smaller and I can't say I was always quite so philosophical about it! Now I miss those cuddly, quiet times with her dozing and snuffling in my arms -she's such an active toddler and rarely stays still long enough for a proper cuddle! On the rare occasions she does, I savour every second of it.

  4. BHS - 3!? Ah well, I was a bad slepper all my life, so I'm bracing myself for the long haul, lol.

    Sara, Rebecca - yeah, it's just too fast. These aren't easy times, but those cuddles will be gone one day, or at least greatly diminished.

  5. We're on night-time parenting round 2. It's easier this time to see that it won't be like this forever. Even though I try to appreciate the time holding her in my arms, it's hard to keep perspective on the really rough nights. Hang in there. sounds like you're doing a great job.

  6. So happy I found your blog...

  7. Ah well, so much for the extra exercise of crawling helping her sleep...but you are so right, thanks for the reminder...mine are already often so squirmy when I try to cuddle, always something more exciting for them to do...We have to cherish it when they let us...

  8. I remember those times and feeling that way too. The awareness of how fleeting that baby stage really is (even when the nights seem eternal lol). I could project forward and see my girl as she is today - at school and not in need of me 24 hours a day. I would hold that baby just a little closer and drink in those moments.

    Although I embraced it utterly and wholeheartedly, it's hard to think of going back to it now that I do have more space and freedom. I partly yearn for the baby stage again, but I'm thankful it's over...hehe.

  9. I feel the same way about my pregnancy having been so sick all the time. I often catch myself saying, "I can't wait for this baby to come", but I will also really miss feeling his left hook and fluttering legs moving around in my belly. My husband and I really enjoy that and it is something that we can share together and smile about. So though somedays I think I just can't take it another day I think about being thankful for this time with the boy. I'm glad you are able to find some peace amongst the chaos too. :)

  10. I felt as if I was given an immeasurable gift from somewhere when I was a new mother - the appreciation of every moment. It not only kept me sane, happy, and peaceful through the sleepless months, but somehow it managed to impress the experience deep into my memory. So all these years later I can look back and remember exactly the perfumed weight of her in my arms, filling them, filling my heart.

  11. Those kinda days can be so hard. I admire your ability to take the long view and enjoy it while you can. I miss the baby days and unfortunately was single and stressed and didn't spend as much time simply appreciating them.



  12. Hi everyone,

    Just about everyone I know says how quickly it goes by, and just about everyone I know regrets not having loved it moe at the time.

  13. Hi Mon,

    Thought you had some nice insights and I'd encourage you to join some kindred spirits at as we'd enjoy having you along!


  14. Lovely. This has reminded me to try to enjoy the not so good moments with my own baby. It is so hard to remember to appreciate how fortunate I am. I don't like to think of these baby days ever finishing.


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