I'm big on de-cluttering. I find it so freeing. I've never been a materialistic person. I was very happy when I travelled around Oz with all my worldly belongings squashed into a car and trailer, then just the car, and eventually just a suitcase and bag.

I didn't give it much thought at the time. it just felt like the most natural thing in the world. I sought experiences and connections. A change of clothes and my journal where all I really wanted.

Then you Grow Up. You accumulate a house, a car, a Serious Relationship, obligations.... and it's rather too weird, even for me, to live in a house with just a change of clothes and a journal. That's not simple, care-free, or hippie even. It's just erm, spartan. So of course, you accumulate stuff. Necessary stuff, then pretty stuff, then just because-I-walked-past-the-home-decor-store stuff.

When we left England to come to Montenegro, it was a wonderful opportunity to do a major de-clutter. I admit, I'm not a knick-knack sort of person and because I was always somewhat frugal and not overly materialistic, we never had a house full of crap anyway. But there was still stuff, stuff we didn't need. Taking more than we needed or at least really wanted would have been indulgently costly, so that major de-clutter was an essential task.

And then events happen in our lives that render stuff meaningless, or devoid of any serious meaning. At the very least, it just all seems too much. I looked around me one day last week and I felt burdened with everything I owned. And it's not tons and tons by a long shot.

photo: davespertine at devianart

My mind was needing peace, silence, space. All this stuff was noise. My soul is requesting movement forward. All this stuff was weight.

What I have the most of is books. We have a spare room in this apartment that holds all our boxes of stuff ready for that day we were to move to a new house. But most of those boxes are my books.

I am a keeper of books. I don't just enjoy stories and information, I enjoy the aesthetic of shelf upon shelf lined with books. I adore old and new libraries. Old cracked leather-bound tomes and crisp clean new novels. A mini fantasy (though not important) was to have my own room that was mostly library. Floor to ceiling, corner to corner, books, books, books.

The majority of my books are non-fiction, so before you think me too indulgent, I do refer to a lot of them over and over.

I don't collect, purchase much of or even any at all, in the way of shoes, outfits, jewelry, accessories, make-up, hair products, hobby materials, music, or film.
I don't go out with friends. I don't get manicures. I cut my own hair. I have no subscriptions to magazines. I don't smoke.

My books are my passion and vice perhaps.

And even these objects of adoration, have become noise. I'm as shocked as anyone.

I gave away or sold over 500 books before leaving England. I still have 700+ books.
So I'm giving them away. If I were in England I'll be selling some for the much needed cash, but ah well. It feels good to give. I just wish there were more expats here wanting books. The few that love them as much as me have small apartments and husbands on watch.
My eclectic collection seeks admirers. Cooking, health, and novels, find ready homes. Occult, spiritual, and plain weird-ass items are in want of suitors.
I wish you guys were closer so that I could pass them on to you.

I went through my database (yes, I admit nerdiness) and created a new tab: keep, go, ?. I have 500 classed as Keep so that's a great start.

I just don't need them.

That's a mighty big statement for me to make. It was never an issue about needing them. I do enjoy owning them, but it has made me wonder...

How much of what we own is there to fill space? A space that we have been lost to know how to fill. A space within ourselves.

We fill it with stuff, food, sex, achievements, study, work, drugs, chores even. If we are unable or incapable of finding the true need.
Because our souls know one thing above all else it seems to me

it cannot be empty.


photo: canislupusmoon at devianart

Less than 20 hours sleep in an entire week. siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh

But seeing the wee one so uncomfortable with the prickly heat is the most distressing. I use various natural remedies (her skin loves aloe vera), but it's all temporary. Keeping her cool is the best - prevention and all that. It's just that it builds in her system and in the middle of the night she starts scratching her head like a person in the throes of a hysterical madness. And there's nothing on her skin as such.

Temps have hit 36C and it's too much for us. For me, an Autumn girl, I just wither and wilt. For the Wildflower, well, see above. We have air-conitioning, but I dislike it's unnaturalness, making me feel disconnected from air.

My green-thumbed neighbour has gifted me with a few basil plants. Love this guy with organic tomatoes and feta cheese.


My toms are looking juicy too. Gifted by Den.


I made peach cobbler for the first time. Seemed like the thing to do with a bag of free peaches. Will share my next experiment shortly. After a taste, I gave the rest away to the neighbour.

The Wildflower has found her girlyness via shoos. Much encouraged by baba (grandma). She's already worn my heeled shoes in a week more than I have in 5 years.


An emotionally turbulent week. I'm not letting go of my strength.

I'm giving away books. LOTS of books. Breeeeathe with me, it'll be ok....... Seems the universe is throwing gifts at me, thought I'd throw back. More on that soon.

Part of my child astrology series.

Infant

I feel it my responsibility to clarify the misleading characteristic imposed on Cancerians - they are not moody. Little crabs are inherently very stable. The idea that they're moody comes from their sensitivity to their environment and the people around them. A stable environment will support an emotionally stable crab. If the carers are irritable, unhappy, or stressed, this moon-ruled baby will feel it all. It's their sensitivity that has them easily cry, laugh, scream in anger, or frighten.

The other misconception is that the crab is, well... crabby. The thing about this sign is that they don't bottle up their feelings. So if you irritate them, they'll wear that irritability openly.

Unlike their animal symbol, these little crabs are so, so cuddly. They love to be cuddled and to cuddle others. They are the most natural nurterers and it usually shows from the earliest months.

Cancer babies do best with feeding on demand. If forced to fit into a schedule, they can become overeaters.

Sing them gentle lullabies and find their favourite. They will remember it forever after and will be soothed by it. I've yet to meet a crab baby that disliked bath time. If she needs soothing and all else fails, water should do the trick.

They are very placid and loving little beings. In fact, they can be so docile, that the danger is that their parents will not provide enough attention, believing them to be 'just fine'. This is a risk especially if there are other more demanding siblings. While they might adapt to, or accept, whatever you choose for their entertainment or sleeping arrangements, their emotional and psychological potential is reached by providing lots of stability, 1-on-1 stimulation, encouragement, and plenty of affection.

As I don't do one of these every single week, I thought that a permanent spot would be most beneficial to others. You can locate this post from my top menu.

Thankful Anyway Thursday is my response to all the thankfulness I read in Blogland.
Bloggers are thankful for their family, the roof over their head, food on the table, and so on.

Now don't get me wrong, we ought to be thankful for these things when so many do without. But it's easy to be thankful for these things. Too easy. How am I pushed spiritually and psychologically? I think I can push myself a little further.

I want to challenge myself to find the thankfulness in the, well..... the crap. The stuff that initially angers me, annoys me, depresses me, or generally makes me go, ARGH!
I want to find thankfulness in confusion, stress, anxiety, and ruts.
I believe strongly in the benefits of screaming, crying, or punching a pillow if that works for you. And then I believe in moving forward.

Sometimes it's a small thing, and sometimes life is really tough. Important, frivolous, serious or humourous - it's all good.
I've come to not only enjoy these Thursday posts, but to find growth through them. Even if I don't find the time or inclination to post, I often compose something in my head from the week that has passed. And reading other bloggers' Thankful Anyways often inspires me.

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